「みのたけ」の 教育・投資・生活etc

みのたけ中年の趣味用雑記メモ(非収益化ブログ)。倹約と投資で労働から卒業した隠居生活者。投資歴は20年ほど。

記憶と感情 今日の幸せ(仕事と私事):幸福と満足の違い = 「その瞬間」と「振り返り」。記憶は永続的なもの、感情は過ぎ去るもの

 

 

この10年弱、仕事を私事として取り組んできた。

 

生きがいやりがいある趣味としての仕事というのか。

 

そういう趣味的な仕事だったが、お金のために働いている自分になってきたので卒業。

 

お金のために働く必要性より、自由に人生を楽しむ方が優先順位が高くなった面もあるが。

 

やはり仕事は趣味であることが私には望ましい。

 

現職からの卒業に関して、過去の自分の取り組みが「良い時間の使い方だった」と改めて感じられたのが、ここ数日。

 

仕事から卒業することが嬉しいというより、「時間の使い方が良かった」と感じられたことが嬉しい。

 

※多少の「留年」があるが、私は昔から「ちょっと留年を楽しむ」という傾向があり、それはいつもプラスに働いているので Good でしょう。『確認しながら、全速力で遠回り』。そんな遠回りが良き人生を創る、楽しい。良きかな。 ^_^

 

※ここ数年は全力を出し切っていたとは言えないけれど、プライベートほぼナシで仕事に向き合っていた時期を経て、「適度な力加減」で子ども達を「泳がせる」という領域に取り組めたことは良かったと思う。

 

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幸福と満足の違い

「その瞬間」と「振り返り」

記憶は永続的なもの、感情は過ぎ去るもの

 

Happiness and satisfaction are distinct. Happiness is a momentary experience that arises spontaneously and is fleeting. Meanwhile, satisfaction is a long-term feeling, built over time and based on achieving goals and building the kind of life you admire. Kahneman explains that working toward one goal may undermine our ability to experience the other.


Research measuring everyday happiness—the experiences that leave people feeling good—found that spending time with friends was highly effective. Yet those focused on long-term goals that yield satisfaction don’t necessarily prioritize socializing, as they’re busy with the bigger picture.


“Altogether, I don’t think that people maximize happiness in that sense…this doesn’t seem to be what people want to do. They actually want to maximize their satisfaction with themselves and with their lives. And that leads in completely different directions than the maximization of happiness”.


“Life satisfaction is connected to a large degree to social yardsticks–achieving goals, meeting expectations.” Money has a significant influence on life satisfaction, whereas happiness is affected by money only when funds are lacking. Poverty creates suffering, but above a certain level of income that satisfies our basic needs, wealth doesn’t increase happiness. “The graph is surprisingly flat.”


In other words, if you aren’t hungry, and if clothing, shelter, and your other basics are covered, you’re capable of being at least as happy as the world’s wealthiest people. The fleeting feelings of happiness, though, don’t add up to life satisfaction. Looking back, a person who has had many happy moments may not feel pleased on the whole.


The key here is memory. Satisfaction is retrospective. Happiness occurs in real time. In Kahneman’s work, he found that people tell themselves a story about their lives, which may or may not add up to a pleasing tale. Yet, our day-to-day experiences yield positive feelings that may not advance that longer story, necessarily. Memory is enduring. Feelings pass. Many of our happiest moments aren’t preserved—they’re not all caught on camera but just happen. And then they’re gone.


Take going on vacation, for example.  A person who knows they can go on a trip and have a good time but that their memories will be erased, and that they can’t take any photos, might choose not to go after all. The reason for this is that we do things in anticipation of creating satisfying memories to reflect on later. We’re somewhat less interested in actually having a good time.


This theory helps to explain our current social media-driven culture. To some extent, we care less about enjoying ourselves than presenting the appearance of an enviable existence. We’re preoccupied with quantifying friends and followers rather than spending time with people we like. And ultimately, this makes us miserable.


We feel happiness primarily in the company of others. However, the positive psychology movement that has arisen in part as a result of his work doesn’t emphasize spontaneity and relationships. Instead, it takes a longer view, considering what makes life meaningful, which is a concept.


Still, it’s worth asking if we want to be happy, to experience positive feelings, or simply wish to construct narratives that seems worth telling ourselves and others, but doesn’t necessarily yield pleasure. Meet a friend and talk it over with them—you might have a good time. 


Still, it’s worth asking if we want to be happy, to experience positive feelings, or simply wish to construct narratives that seems worth telling ourselves and others, but doesn’t necessarily yield pleasure. Meet a friend and talk it over with them—you might have a good time. 

 

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qz.com

 

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まさに卒業仕事への「振り返り」と「満足」(笑)